Dreams Analysis Can Change Your Life
Greater wellbeing and making better life decisions originates in better self-knowledge, which always consists in bringing hidden unconscious parts to consciousness. The unconscious concept founders were Sigmund Freud (more rational) and Carl Jung (more mystical). While Freud’s dreams analysis is more appropriate to reveal things of childhood, Jung’s approach is more to explore the meaning of life. Both Freud and Jung use symbols interpretation.
From Low Self-Esteem To Its Resolution: Rebecca Real Story
Rebecca (not her real name neither her in the picture) is a 40-year old part time aerobic teacher woman. Her husband is an executive in a large corporation. Three years before starting our work, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. The cancer was surgically removed and eradicated with chemotherapy. Rebecca stated that she was living in a permanent state of depression and sadness, could not sleep without over-the-counter sleeping pills and was suffering from recurrent colds. Moreover she expressed her lifetime low self-esteem and feelings of inadequacy as she said she was “pathologically shy”, “terrified to death with school”, and “always feeling stupid.”
Rebecca was born in a middle-class family and has an older sister with whom she is very close. While the family looked perfect on the surface, the two daughters had to adjust to their autocratic father and submissive mother. Unlike her sister who reacted as a placater with her father, Rebecca felt unable to satisfy his high and emotionless expectations. Because her father admired her pleasing sister, Rebecca perceived her as superior and withdrew into herself at an early age.
School has been a traumatic experience for Rebecca. In her early school days, she was terrified to leave her mother. At age nine she was petrified by her teacher whom she described as a mean and cold witch. From that time Rebecca began to feel stupid. She would hate tests, especially math and oral tests, because she would perceive them as a proof of her stupidity. Rebecca still hates that teacher and avoids any academic activities because of her test anxiety.
Reaching 14 was another unhappy year for Rebecca. She was totally demotivated, hated everything about school and had terrible grades. She tried to quit school as she felt that she was not as good as the others. She smoked marijuana occasionally and ran away with a friend for one day. Finally when she was 16 she frequently skipped school and her school nightmare would end when she got pregnant. She then married her high school sweetheart and finally quit from school. Rebecca and her husband raised their son who would become a responsible adult man.
A major couple crisis happened several years ago when her husband left for another woman during his mid-life crisis. Rebecca was desperate and suicidal thoughts crossed her mind. After six months, her husband eventually returned home and they have remained united since.
Rebecca Grew Up Pretending To Be a Boy
The father is the cornerstone of the family myth. Everyone had to adjust to his rational tyranny and be in the service of his “strong family leader” role. His wife chose to be submissive and his two daughters had to also sacrifice their true identities to adjust. Repressing her emotions, Rebecca’s sister acted according the father’s model and became his favorite daughter. Hearing her father always praising her sister, Rebecca perceived her as superior. At a very early age she gave up any hope of meeting her father’s expectations which resulted in her withdrawal into herself, the repression of her emotions and developing a strong feeling of inferiority.
The Magical Revelation of a Dream
Rebecca once told me a very revealing dream. She was rinsing pasta in a kitchen sink in the house of her childhood. Pasta was spiraled and every single one had a penis shape. This dream was about her conception: the spiraled pasta was symbolizing an all-male sperm in the sink-vagina of her parents alchemical kitchen. Her father was expecting the birth of a boy. To be her father’s boy was an expectation Rebecca could never meet, although she tried as she always wanted to be a boy. She was faced with this impossible challenge from the first second of her life. Coincidentally, Rebecca indicated that between her sister birth and hers, her mother miscarried a boy.
When becoming a teenager and her breasts beginning to show, Rebecca could no longer pretend to be a boy to her father. It is exactly at that time that she was driven to break the communication with her father.
With her sporty appearance and her childish look, Rebecca looks much younger than her age; almost as if her development was blocked at an early stage. Rebecca reminded me of Peter Pan eternal youth, which she completely agreed to when we discussed this metaphor.
Rebecca Now Smiles And Gained Self-Confidence
Thanks to her dream revelation, Rebecca would gain the awareness that she was not born as a boy and that she could progressively unveil the woman she was meant to be. Rebecca became motivated in changing her self-image sustained by new spiritual and professional aspirations. As she was entering her mid-life crisis, her life changes took positive directions. Rebecca unveiled her true self, gained a stronger self-image and felt more adequate.
Rebecca has come a long way. Now with rare, short and mild depressive episodes, Rebecca smiles and has gained self-confidence. Her recurrent colds have become occasional. However, she still has difficulty sleeping without sleeping pills. Her attitude towards cancer has improved substantially, as she learned to cope with the womanhood loss resulting from her surgery.
The Unconscious And Your Wellbeing
As it changed Rebecca’s life, dream analysis can transform yours. If you are not doing so already, write all the dreams you can remember of within the 10-minute period after you wake up. Start tomorrow morning. You will need them to build your personal dictionary of symbols. On a limited budget, Astro-tarology is a quick approach to reveal your repressed, hidden or forgotten unconscious parts. Dream interpretation would go in more depth but would require recurrent sessions. In any case an Astro-Tarology session is always recommended as an excellent start.
In light and love, Serge Bernard